Orbiters, Ghosters....Best Not FB with Dates !

I have a little string of 'dates' who I have unfortunetly friended on FB. Seemed like a good idea at the time, but now it feels like they are bad luick pendants on my uncharming necklace of a year of falling flat. Why do they just orbit you, and worse ghost you despite often sending the original FB request ?? Well if you sent them a request then it is clear, they want to be polite, they dont want to hurt your feelings and maybe even want to avoid end up being potentially on some male chat group as a bitch or it getting back to them through old analogue gossip. But on the other side there is a bit of a women power thing. They have you, one they casted off, or one to show their mates or what ever. Either power over you or prestige with their mates, or making another suitor jealous. On that last point I sometimes wonder if dating in itself is to make a.n.other a bit on their toes or even jealous. So we come then to ghosting, where they ignore any comments you make on their posts, and dont like your stuff ....apart from maybe once in a looong while. Then they are ghosting as a power thing. A recent date went well, as did no 2 but she had me on FB and probably did some objective thinking which in dating is a no-no. Why did I do that? to be open with her, to lay myself before her. Well then you are no longer controlling the message. You are too available, no mystery or romance. Everything is explained or interpreted without you guiding or influencing any of it. Anyway, she lived quite far away. And in fact there wasnt much more than the chance of a nice time or two and some shagging. My other recent, very appropos proved to be a lot prettier in real life than photos, sort of unphotogenic. I sent her an FB request after a loong date involving her spare room and a walk next day. She did not accept. Not good. So FB is to be roundly avoided until maybe the deal is sealed, and you are an item. Then things are rosey in the garden What about FB as an intelligence tool? Do they really look like they do in their Tinderland images ? Well the only thing there I have learned is that women who fake their images with older ones or smoothing do the exact same thing in the name of vanity in vain on FB. Also on FB, ok, so who is it? Can I ask a mutual pal what they are like?? The last time I asked about a girl I did the detective work on, I was told she was bipolar before even her husband took his own life, so that was maybe more than I needed to know, and hey, maybe the girl needed a bloody hug , not to be handled with asbestos gloves,. Perfect failed date was exactly that, she was old, intraverted and did not keep as fit as she said. her images were of when she was nice and brown and maybe five years younger. We lived not that far from each other. i found her on FB but that was it, same vintage of images with a nice sun tan and no crow lines at the edges of her eyes.ie old. We did comm's only on tinder and afterwards there was little chat , i asked if she was shy and she deleted me as a match, thank you so very much. You can also block phone numbers, so hell, fdrop the whole social media thing and just meet for a date and walk away from it intact and dont gather wee space junk satelites in orbit around you.